How I Turned Being Fired Into The Opportunity Of A Lifetime

Fire

I hated that stupid job. I remember it like it was yesterday, my boss yanked me into his office before I could even get to my desk. Without any warning, he blasted into me with just a few short breaths…

You’re fired!

That was the turning point, the nail in the coffin for me.  Fair enough I thought to myself. He was a total prick; nobody liked working for him. Tough to hear those words, but I saw it coming…I had a plan…

I was already “fired” in my own mind.

I had my exit strategy with the company; I knew that my days were numbered.  The news didn’t come as a shock.  I had a completely different view of the world. Shots fired, moving on.

What does any of this have to do with you? Here’s the deal: in the next few pages, if you have the guts to think outside of the box, you will have acquired the most powerful human engineering technology that has ever been created!

You will discover things like…

  • How to cure any phobia and live worry free (Afraid of heights, traveling,  this one’s for you)
  • How to read people’s minds and instantly know if they are lying (Learn    the methods that law enforcement use in their most high profile cases)
  • How to use modeling and do things like, start a business or learn the guitar

And a whole lot more!

Little did my boss knowI had just acquired a very powerful set of ethical mind hacks and I had already been successfully using them to my unfair advantage in my own business. My first online business was making me money on complete auto-pilot! For the first time ever, I had freedom and respect from the people who I’d never get the time of day from before – I never thought I’d say these words out loud but…It felt amazing being fired, knowing what I had just empowered myself with.

And as you learn more, you’ll see why these little-known hacks are a game changer; the catalyst to major life changing experiences.

Imagine being in control of your own life — You’re own money, your health, your relationships, everything…What would you use these hacks for? The possibilities are endless.

What if I told you that I’m using covert ethical mind-hacks on you right now? Totally harmless yet effective ways to keep your attention teased and your subconscious mind wanting more the entire time.

I always had been curious about a few things mysterious things growing up and could never find the answers, until now.  The question I kept asking myself was…

Why are some people more successful than others?

It’s a good question, and you’ll get answers from all over the place, outside of natural ability everything we experience has be learned for ourselves. There are shortcuts, models and representation systems that can significantly speed up or slow down that process. It’s all in how you use them.

We had the clues all along, even before the creators of NLP came along but they were hidden in very old, hard to find books from human engineer pioneers like Earl Nightingale, who is quoted saying things like:

“We Become What We Think About”

Pretty powerful distinction right there, the reader is thinking to himself…We become what we think about? O‘Rly. If I think about becoming a zombie, do I become a zombie? Yes and no.

That’s not what E.N was getting at; he was talking about our other than conscious state of mind and how the things that we think about become deeply embedded into our sub consciousness; which then influences other things around us, without us having any control over. Pretty scary thought. He was a genius for his time. Moving onward, let’s get to the good stuff, the very reason why you’re here.

Yeah you, your neighbor, just about anyone can learn how to hack their way to almost any outcome imaginable. There’s only one requirement…

Destroy all self-limiting beliefs.

Won’t be needing those anymore, the — no I cants, that’s too hard, ect…One of the NLP distinctions says that in order to create change, we have to eliminate our limiting beliefs. Just as a quick example, change the phrase, “I can’t do something” to “I can’t do that, yet”.  This is a great example of how our language, also known as linguistics in NLP, is a tool and can be hacked to our advantage unto ourselves or others. I believe it’s the workhorse of NLP, the tool that gets the most shit done and has the greatest influence on our sub consciousness.

Our language is one of the three tools in NLP; you can use it to manipulate just about any situation, you have to make sure you’re responsible in how you use it. Take a hammer for example, you can use a hammer to bang in a nail or you can use the same hammer to smash someone’s brains out, use your tools wisely.

Once you remove any limiting belief you might have, you will begin to see how easy it is to create your own mental hacking formulas to do the following: persuade people to hire you, create new

relationships, improve your sex life, you name it, these techniques are timeless and can be applied to almost real world situation.

For example, my first business had already been launched and doing well and seeing rapid growth faster than most new businesses, but this wasn’t by chance or luck, it wasn’t random, there was a formula, a set of hacks I was using to create rapid results. Look at how fast some start-ups have taken off, I’m talking about the people having super-fast success like never before, there’s a model behind that success (I don’t recommend that you go and get fired from your job after reading this, very bad idea, don’t do it.)

The main factor to lightning fast success and growth is actually something I’ll be going into a bit later in this post called modeling. Modeling is taking the structure of a desired outcome and creating a formula so that you may be able achieves the same results in much less time than it would have taken you had you not known the correct steps to take.

Quick History of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming)

NLP stands for Neuro-linguistic Programming. The creators of NLP are Richard Bandler and John Grinder, they sum up NLP into four words; the structure of excellence.

Back in the early 70’s Richard and John set out to develop a human technology or a set of human hacks that examined and duplicated the outcome of someone else’s experiences. The goal: To achieve the same desired outcome to the benefit of their own experiences as well as others.

They knew that this would help people therapeutically, business wise and in many other areas of life, and they certainly did a good job at seeing into the future. A lot of people have had success beating phobias, quitting smoking and eliminating other bad behaviors and still practice NLP to this day.

Introduction to NLP Patterns

When I first started NLP it was hard for me to really find actionable ways to take advantage of the things I was learning. For example, I knew NLP could help me accomplish specific task a lot easier, I just didn’t know how to apply what I learned to that specific task. That’s when I discovered NLP patterns, which if you don’t know where to find them, good luck on taking any of the things you’ve learned in NLP and applying them for your own use. They left out the manual for that. The good news is I have some of the most useful ones in this report.

An NLP pattern is a set of rules to be executed in a particular situation for change. There are all kinds of patterns available but they are not easy to find. One thing to avoid doing when using patterns is thinking that one pattern fits all, this is not true, and you can add/change/delete any part of the pattern you see fit for your particular cause.

A thing to remember about patterns, a pattern that helps you quit smoking might be very different from some of the other patterns. There are more complex patterns as well as some very simple patterns; it all comes down to the specific situation and the outcome you are trying to achieve.

Today, we’ll only be able to touch upon the much more widely used ones in this report. For example, say that you wanted to cure a phobia; you would find a pattern that best facilitates the structure of this change. This would most likely be the phobia cure pattern.

The Secrets Of How To Reach Rapid Success With Modeling

“Success is a science; if you have the conditions, you get the results”.

There’s no doubt that modeling is one of the core components of NLP, this is because it can be applied more specifically to rapid change. The creators wanted a way to not only be able to duplicate success from other people’s experiences; they knew that in order for it to happen, it needed to happen quickly. There’s a saying, the best change work happens fast, like a light switch, because that’s how humans work. (Think stimulus / response – light on, light off)

The creators, Richard and John used high-impact people in the early days of creating modeling. They looked into the lives of professionals in the fields of linguistics, psychology and also cybernetics. Much of the early success from NLP came from the amazing techniques that were used to elicit behaviors of the individuals that were achieving such great accomplishments. It was said after being modeled, not even the individuals they studied were aware of the structures and behaviors they had been using every day in their pursuit for success.

Successful people who do coaching, seminars and public speeches do leave clues but they never expose the exact formula in which they reach success, this again is because sometimes they don’t actually know some of the patterns they are doing to achieve the things they do. So, the takeaway here is that modeling goes beyond what these high-impact people can even teach you, powerful stuff. This key distinction is what brought on the catalyst to drive NLP onto the big stage in its early stages. In the driver’s seat was the meta-model, the formula to discover not only what people were doing to reach success but also what they themselves were not able to see.

The meta-model was used primarily in language patterns by many therapists in America around the time of 1975 and public interest of the technology started to grow from there. One individual was quoted saying, “Success is a science; if you have the conditions, you get the result”.

Key Distinctions Of Modeling

As you begin to learn more about modeling, you will start to notice that there are two main distinctions – The first part is the ability to extract or elicit the behaviors and structures of excellence; the second part is being able to take that pattern and install it in use for yourself or others. So, modeling has two parts, extracting or downloading the pattern, then installing it for use in other situations.

There are two roles, the analyst or knowledge worker and the subject being modeled. The analyst begins to observe more than just the dialog in which the subject is speaking about. Beyond learning the dialog, the knowledge worker beings looking for other clues, body movements, rapport-building, other things being observed that isn’t just what the subject is describing. These are the meta-programs. For example, a psychotherapist will do specific things to build rapport like mirror and matching the client’s nonverbal cues. This is something that was modeled from Milton Erickson the first of three modeled by the creators.

Milton was doing amazing things with his clients; he was able to build incredible rapport with his clients and in some cases automatically. He could tell the persons heart rate, their breathing patterns and other nonverbal cues during his sessions.  He was also one of the greatest hypnotists of all time, a great deal of psycho therapists examined and attempted to model Milton’s work.

He was the person who pioneered the topic of TDS (transderivational search) where he was able to use this tool to keep his subjects in trance for a much longer period of time, without them even knowing he was putting them into a deep hypnosis state. Completely covert hypnosis, nobody even had a clue he was doing it. TDS will be something we will cover in a later post, the focus today is to just give the foundation of NLP and modeling.

He was also the inspiration behind the Milton model, which we will not be covering in today’s post.

We also model by looking at how the individual represents their own map of reality, the saying in NLP is: the map is never the territory, what this means is that each individual has a different way of representing the same road, colors, objects and even imaginary things like fairy tales, etc. These leave a lot of clues that are worth it for the knowledge worker to look closer into and that’s exactly what the creators did.

The second person the creators modeled was Virginia Satir. Virginia was one of the most successful family therapists of her time, she was credited with helping thousands of family’s rebuild their relationships and have healthy lives together. When the creators were observing her working with one of her clients, they noticed something very interesting that she was doing without even knowing she was doing it herself.

Virginia had a way of connecting with her clients; she would do it with holding their hands and doing really unique practices like playing out a situation or event in real time and teaching her clients instead of just diagnosing them and sending them off to the pharmacy. She was actually demonstrating the change as it were happing in a real situation, and she was getting great results.

Once you have a model that you want to use, and there are many which we will be going over in future posts, you will need to learn how to use them for your own benefit. Whether it’s that you want to be a better athlete and learn how some of the top runners train and diet, or how you can achieve great academic success and become a wealthy doctor, you need to learn which models can help you. You would typically need to sit with an NLP practitioner in order to learn more about your specific needs and many are available in just about every state.

Basic 2nd Position Modeling

For this demonstration of how to model a “subject” in order to learn more about the structure of how they achieved great success, you need four people on hand, one being the subject of course – The subject that interacts with the person being modeled, a modeler and finally someone to observe. This will help give feedback and crowd together specific patterns one individual might have missed but was caught by another.

Credit of this model goes to various contributors to the NLP community all of which can be seen practicing NLP to this day. Here we go.

Step #1 Open the beginning of the conversation

For about 10 minutes start a conversation around a specific topic between the person being modeled and the subject conducting the experiment. The modelers job is to have the person being modeled to go into the second position, take note of all muscle movements from responses to specific questions during the discussion.

Step #2 Make the Modeler present

Have the modeler take the first position, where the person being modeled is now observing the modeler as if it were them answering to the questions and being the person modeled in the conversation.

Step #3 Give feedback

The person being modeled is to now give feedback with the observer as to how well the modeler is reacting to the questions; they are to be looking for the same patterns that were observed from the person being modeled.

Step #4 Create a new conversation

Make the modeler exit the room, with only the subject and person being modeled as part of this step.  Find a new subject to converse about for about 10 more minutes; the subject is now in control over which topics to converse about this time.

Step #5 Make the modeler stand in

The modeler can now return to the room, this time standing in again for the person being modeled. The subject continues the conversation with the modeler following the same topics as much as possible for another 10 minutes.

Step #6 Provide more feedback

Again, as in step 3, the subject, the person being modeled and the observer are now giving feedback to the modeler on how well they are matching the same behaviors observed by the person being modeled.

Step #7 Test

Over the next several months, continue to monitor the modeler and test with them how well they are coming along with learning the model and behaviors of the person who was being modeled.

How To Eliminate The Fear Of Flying

Do you know someone who has a fear of flying or a fear of heights? Yeah, that person has a phobia but the good news is there is a NLP hack for this specific case. The phobia cure pattern aims to eliminate unrealistic, habitual fears, like I mentioned above. Phobia’s can seriously limit people from doing simple ordinary tasks and can even be the cause of a great deal of stress, not fun, not fun at all.

 Warning: This is ONLY an illustration of what steps a NLP practitioner would take in a real life therapy session, if you have trouble with this; you should seek an NLP therapist in your area, someone who’s a professional therapist who may assist you in resolving your phobias. Do not attempt this on your own.

Note: remember when using this pattern, you have to go into a deep mental state; you will have to put yourself into a self-trance. To do this, sit down in a comfortable chair, close your eyes and begin to breath, follow the next steps below.

This might take more than one attempt for some individuals, but by using your trance state, by replaying the situation out, you’re giving yourself the opportunity to try and stop the triggers of fear / anxiety in that particular situation from happening in a real life situation.

Step #1 Using your imagination play a mental movie of the fear / anxiety in third person, looking down at yourself disassociated from the experience of this fear, play it out in your mind. Paint the picture of the scene, what’s going on around you, the sounds you hear, try to make it seem like you’re in the situation that’s about to trigger your anxiety.

Step #2 Now, imagine sitting down to prepare watching a movie, only it’s a movie of your life and you’re watching yourself in third person. Play the movie as you watch yourself experience the fear and anxiety you are having in that particular situation, now searching backwards right before you experience the fear stop the movie.

Step #3 Rerun the movie you just watched of yourself experiencing the fear of flying, this time try to run the movie in your mind as if it were black and white, no colors. At the very end of the movie, freeze the frame and imagine the movie slowly fading out, just as it happens in the movie theater.

Step #4 Enter the first position, you’re not looking down at yourself this time, you’re experiencing the mental movie from your own perspective. Run the movie backwards, this time in full color to the beginning of the clip.

Step #5 Repeat these steps until the fear is desensitized and you no longer feel anxiety as you replay the mental movie forward and reverse.

How To Tell If Someone Is Lying

To tap into the minds of others, you first have to understand what Non-verbal cue recognition is. Sure, it sounds like a lot to swallow at first, but once you learn NVCR, you will be able to read minds from non-verbal communication cues in a one on one conversation with someone.

There are over 1,600 cues for interpreting the state of mind that an individual may be in. We will break down some of the most common nonverbal communication cues that will lead to clues on how to detect deception in a conversation with someone.

Researchers have studied and found that deception is a lot harder to conceal as it:

  • Requires more cognitive effort than telling the truth
  • A persons emotions are harder to control in a lie and easy to detect
  • Stress and anxiety plays a major role in deception, easily noticeable as well

The main examples of nonverbal recognition cues are

  • Person looking down at the ground, avoiding eye contact
  • Fidgeting and blinking sporadically
  • Breathing starts to get heavy
  • Fumbling over words and beginning to perspire

The Failure Into Feedback Pattern

This pattern can be applied anywhere but I see it working the best in a business situation. Much like when we repeatedly reach failure, instantly the first thing we think about is giving up, most do anyways. There was one brilliant mind that didn’t succumb to failure, take Thomas Edison for example: One of his famous quotes…

“I have not failed, I’ve just found 10000 ways that won’t work”

Same concept with applies with the failure into feedback pattern. When the chips are down, don’t give up; turn your failure into feedback and eventually you will reach your goal.

Step #1 Locate the problem, in your mind find the belief which in turn makes you feel overwhelmed and unable to perform to desired results. Take a capability that you find difficult acquiring, for example in sales, you need to move a person to buy something, if you can’t get to that point, you might feel failure start to set in.

Step #2 Take the failure belief and related frustration with a capability and goal. Next, frame a clear image of the skill being put into action, replay the mental movie of what successfully reaching that capability and goal would look like.  For example, one movie might go like this if you’re in sales. You just make a sale, you sign off with the client and you go back to your boss and he gives you a high-five.  Find imagery that is very positive of your desired outcome.

Step #3 In this step we use a technique in NLP called future pacing, the goal here is to play a movie of you reaching the highest possible level of success you could imagine for yourself. Future pacing is a great way to handle failures because by looking into the future we never lose sight of the capability / goal accomplishment.

How To Get the Most Out of NLP

NLP can be intimidating when you first start learning about the new things involving the way in which we use our senses to create change. Don’t be discouraged, there are literally thousands of therapists in each state that would love to meet for a consultation.

This will help you take advantage of the things we covered today as I believe it’s important to practice NLP in a group as some of the patterns you’ve learned today require more people to be involved. This isn’t always easy to do as some of your peers may resist some of the beliefs we have discussed today about NLP.

If you have any questions that you would like to see answered or want to suggest a topic for us to discuss, please drop a comment below and we will research the subject and put out a new blog post if we find enough information around it.

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